Feminism – Its Scope

“And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto man.

And Adam said, ‘this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.”

-Genesis, Chapter 2

For ages woman has been living in bondage of man. Man had taken it as his birthright to have a control over woman. Male chauvinism emerged from this. Woman too submitted to the superiority of man. She was destined to live in subjugation.

“Unto the woman” God said, “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shall bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”

-Genesis, Chapter 3

It is admitted that nature has made woman, weaker than man. But why to pile on her agony by denying her the things that she can well avail herself of? This feeling sparked off a kind of awareness and some people came forward to support the cause of woman and gradually started being recognized as feminists and the feeling of awareness is known as feminism. So feminism is a movement in support of the belief in the principle that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men.

Well, to this extent, our feminists are absolutely right, and our governments are extending all possible measures to help them out and it is a laudatory gesture of our governments. Man and woman should only have biological discrimination as imposed by nature. Man and woman are two wheels of a cart which will absolutely be demobilized in absence or at the event of any one these becoming less strong. Hence to keep the society on an even keel both these wheels should retain equal strength.

Unfortunately, give somebody an inch, he will take a mile. When anything goes beyond rationality it tends to become pervert. It is a deplorable fact that our feminists now have taken up arms against men. So much so that they have become vocal to demand enslavement of man by woman. They are making unjustifiable demands to create disparity between man and woman. For a given crime, man would be punishable but not a woman. For example, some governments have made infidelity in man, punishable but in women it is not. That is to say, that woman is free to move around and sleep with any person other than the husband but a man is prohibited to do so. Isn’t it ridiculous and cock-eyed? This is only a tip of an iceberg of the amount of injustice being done to men, on demand of the feminists.

A conjugal life can survive and bring forth healthy posterity only when the partners have equal status in family and society, keeping in view their natural disparity. We blink the fact that man and woman were created by God to give company to each other, thus they were born as complimentary to each other and not contradictory. Again to quote from Bible, “It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him”. It is because of this natural bondage between man and woman that the society is able to brave all natural and man made challenges. For God’s sake, let the feminists not be relentless on men and men on the other hand are beseeched to get rid of their male chauvinism. It is by striking this balance that we can look forward to a better society. Let's not prove God’s creation to be worthless.

The Wait

Standing across a busy road in one of the bigger towns in India, a man clad in a white ethnic wear waits for something or someone unknown. Hundreds of vehicles pass by, innumerable people walk past, but he does not budge from his place. He is an old man. His clothes are shabby. His hair has grown white from grey and he badly needs a haircut. He is very restless. He strolls on the sidewalk once in a while, takes a look at his old battered wrist watch and takes some brisk steps to the nearest lamppost. He again waits there, trying to find someone amidst the heavy traffic. He is disturbed with the annoying honking of cars and scooters. But he just reacts with a frown and keeps looking at the road. He looks disturbed, lost, shattered and tired, as if he has been waiting for someone for ages.

I was observing him from my side of the road. I was waiting for someone very special. She had asked me to meet there in the evening. I finished work early today, went home and came back dressed for the date. Women as usual, they always take time and make you wait. I had absolutely no problem with that. After all, she was so special to me. I planned a lot for the date. I would take her to a rooftop restaurant and have candle light dinner. I had already reserved seats for us right next to the swimming pool. Her birthday is a week after, but because she would not be in town, we would celebrate tonight. I bought an expensive watch for her, as a gift. I am sure she would like it.

Well, it’s been a couple of hours now but she is not there. Neither does she use a mobile phone so that I can call and enquire. I am getting restless now. I start strolling on the sidewalk and I keep looking at the old man on the other side of the road. I wonder for whom he is waiting. I gather some courage and cross the road. But before I could ask him anything, the old man turns to me and says, “I knew you would come”. “I knew my youth would come back to me”. “I knew I would be young again”. “I knew I would not have to wait for that girl anymore”. “Now since I have got my youth back, I will take a different road. The road that would help me build my career. I have been waiting here for two decades. The first decade I waited for her. The last decade I waited for my youth to come back so that I do not waste my time waiting for her.”

I did get my youth back but I kept waiting for someone special. And she never came.

children have to cope with the trauma of divorce

Over the past 15 years the number of divorces in the Czech Republic has increased by a third. The Statistics Office predicts that this year the Czech Republic’s divorce rate should climb to a staggering 50 percent. The vast majority of marriages that break up, do so between their third and sixth year - usually at a time when small children are involved. Socially, the stigma of divorce is long gone but for the children caught up in it, the pain and confusion is as strong as ever.

Every fourth child in the Czech Republic comes from a divorced family. The vast majority of them live with their mothers, because in 90 percent of cases it is the mother who is awarded custody. Dr. Alena Cerna works at a family counselling clinic. She says that there are two main reasons why this is so - social stereotypes and economic pressure:
“Partly this is due to social stereotypes which say that the mother should take care of the children and the father should be the bread-winner. But the truth is that a father who would like to take care of two small children would have very little possibility of finding an appropriate job and making a living. Economical factors play a big role. But it is not just that. It is the whole arrangement of the society where it is expected that the mother will keep the kids.”

As a result, half a million children in the Czech Republic only get to see their father a few hours a week - if that. There is no conceivable reason why fathers should not ask to get custody of their children, or agree on joint custody with the children’s mother. However few of them are in a situation where they are able to provide full-time care. Although the concept of paternity leave is slowly catching on - employers do not have much patience with the demands placed on working single fathers. And while children over 10 are increasingly consulted about whom they wish to be with, these practicalities often limit the space for manoeuvre and the final court settlement. Dr. Cerna says that in such cases the best kids can hope for is an amicable divorce - where the divorced parents can spend time together or at least agree on an optimal holiday schedule.
“From the children’s point of view it is ideal that they do not lose contact with either parent. I would be glad if I could say that joint custody is the best solution but it also has its problems. If the children are spending alternately one week here and the next somewhere else then you could say that they have no real home. For a child a home is not just their parents it is the whole place - their toys, their friends, the house - which give them a feeling of stability and safety.”

A survey conducted among children aged 11 to 15 suggests that although they are unhappy about their parents divorcing, they see no reason why they should stay in a dysfunctional marriage. Although many of the answers appeared to be exceptionally mature, Dr. Cerna says that deep down the pain and uncertainty remains - to surface when they themselves enter into a serious relationship. So is the Czech Republic caught in a vicious circle - where parents pre-determine their children’s future happiness or unhappiness in married life? Dr. Cerna again:
“I always ask people / who are getting divorce counselling/ whether they are from a family where the parents divorced and very often it is so. Of course, some divorcees grew up in families which were complete and happy so there is no rule to say that such a child’s future is pre-determined. But I would say that children from divorced families have a more difficult start in life.”

Women beware "Get Rich or Die Trying"

More independent the modern day woman becomes, more she becomes thoughtless of the culture of the society. There has been a sharp rise in the number of divorce cases being filed in the Indian Courts month after month. The point to ponder upon is that most of the couples fall under the age group of 28 to 34.
To add to the despair, greed has taken up a big space in the plot of Law. When the 498a was being drafted, I don’t think that the learned people must have had the slightest of notion that this tool to protect women in India would turn out to be a sharp weapon to satisfy a woman’s greed to grow rich overnight. We will talk about it a little later, meanwhile…..
Let’s look at some of the possible reasons for the people falling under the age group of 28 to 34, opting for divorce:

1. High profile Career aspirations: There has been a massive economic growth in India over the past 20 years or so. The globalization of markets and the invasion of foreign brands have seen India Rise, rise and rise. This complemented with innumerable opening up of uncountable career options and opportunities. When a simple graduate today can earn more than what he or she had ever dreamt off, at the mere age of 20 something, he or she starts aspiring for more and more. One starts building a virtual road map of becoming a millionaire from a pauper in the least possible time. The desire of owning a Bungalow at 25 and a BMW at 28, drives one crazy at an immature age. In midst of all these thoughts, taking responsibility of a family bites the road map out. Hence the thought of divorce.
2. Financial Insecurity: Taking point 1 into consideration, there is always a financial insecurity that surrounds the “High Aspirer”. What if I loose my job? What if I loose all my money? I won’t spend money on my spouse. All these thoughts crop up and lead to the wild thought of being independent.
3. A Stage between immaturity and maturity: 28 to 34 are an age, which is a stage of transition from immaturity to maturity. It is during these years that one starts feeling bigger than what others are. During this period there are a lot of immature decisions taken thinking that they are mature.
4. Over confidence: A thought that one can lead one’s own way, leads to self-destruction. When one thinks that one can win the world without a weapon, one is wrong. Over confidence has crept in the attitudes of the Gen X today. This takes us back to point number 1.
5. Non-compromising nature: People become self reliant and a feeling of “I know all” comes in. This feeling gives birth to another feeling, “I can do without you”. When it comes to a husband wife relationship, separation is inevitable. There are a lot of instances in life where one has to compromise with the spouse. But this has been invaded by the feeling of “why should I?”
6. Independence: Our Generation has a willingness to live alone and independent. If not alone then with a partner who would be there for a relationship with no strings attached. You so your own stuff and I do mine. Independence is a result of nuclear families. Joint families, in this context, used to develop a supportive nature amongst co dwellers.

Coming back to where we had left…. The greed…. Yes we were taking about the greed that has crept into the minds of the modern day woman. “Women have always been oppressed” that is what the feminists Scream to the top of their voices “and its time that the men should pay back the debts”… Which Men are we talking about?
If the feminazis can prove that all the women of India have been suppressed or oppressed in the past, then I shall say that all men today should pay their debts. Was Rani Laxmi Bai ever oppressed?? I don’t think so. Anyways, lets leave it on them to decide.

I have but a question here: fine agreed that the women were oppressed till yesterday, but are the women today, really getting help out of the 498a and the DV?

Yesterday, I saw a slum dwelling man beating up his wife on the road. And there was no one to stop him until I did. Now when I tried stopping him, his wife pounced on me as if I was the culprit and I was trying to get in their family matters. I looked around to search for our great Feminazis but no one was there. Where was the DV Act then ?

Then in the evening I heard that a feminist NGO, had invaded the house of a businessman in one of the posh localities of my town, and had beaten up the husband because he came drunk the precious night and had abused his wife. I was zapped. I am sure the feminazis must have then suggested the wife to file a DV against the husband.

Now this woman will approach a lawyer suggested by the feminazis and will file a 498a against the husband. Then the businessman husband, fearing a fall in reputation, will pay a huge ransom to the wife. The wife will then distribute the promised share to the Police and the Feminazis.

One minute, I forgot to mention that the father of the wife will play a big role in fixing the amount of money to be extorted from the businessman son(a)-in-law. “remember, he will pay less if his parents are not convicted. So what if they do not stay with him. Who cares to investigate?”

Another minute please, I also forgot to mention that all this time the little 4-year-old daughter of the couple was going through a trance seeing her parents fight and the feminazis attack. During this extortion race, the little girl will slowly stride towards oblivion, I guess.
So this is where the Desire to Become Rich Overnight is leading the society. Broken families, lost and spoilt children, unethical practices, and the list goes on….

Yes, you guessed it right. The above is a stolen story from every home. There is nothing creative or new in it. People, I am not an author and why should I be? I don’t want to become modern Salman Rushdie or become infamous like Tasleema Nasreen.

Have you seen that movie ? “Get Rich or Die Trying”… NO!!! watch it today.

Editors, Please don’t publish this article. I don’t want to face shoot at sight orders, nor do I have time to receive hate mails.